Purging & Promises

What happens when you are a man of your word... And the person you made promises too has purged you from their life?
This is a question I ask myself all the time. I don't feel like that gives me fair game to not follow through at any point, simply because you gave up. But is that a flawed way of thinking? Perhaps it is the hopeless romantic in me, or perhaps it is my strong will at play. Even more probable is that I strive to forgive and forget. Sometimes I do that last one to a fault.

Give until it hurts, and then give 10x more. 70x7! The number of times you should forgive someone who wrongs you.

Even more I question how this effects promises I made to other people who are associated with this person who has purged me? We live in a culture where some people feel like taking sides is a must. It is impossible to allow the folks around you to remain neutral. They are your people for crying out loud! To some point, I agree if the grievance is something that is about more than one person, however when it comes to dating, I think that what is between 2 people is just that. I didn't allow people in our business when we were together, why am I going to drag them into it when we break up. Feels like the mature way to handle things, but I guess that is just me. I never said a negative word about you before and I won't now. If you hurt my feelings I will express that as such. But that is not the same thing.

Just in case you are out there, and reading this. You've been made to feel like you had to take sides. It is ok! I get it! You do what you have to do for those people you love. If they need that, in order to trust you, and not feel betrayed, then I admire your loyalty. Just know that I didn't walk away from you, and I miss you and am sorry you got pulled into this. I truly never wanted that. Good luck and take care.